Numerous people urge to have a healthy relationship, but very few able to get through the success of having a healthy relationship. If you would ask ‘what is a healthy relationship’, then I would just say that it is a little tricky question to answer. Because what I feel is that the relationships are communicated by various range factors including the meaning, closeness and purpose as well as on one’s relationship history and cultural identity.
So, do you know what exactly the term ‘healthy relationship’ means? Who is the one who decides what is healthy for a relationship and what is not? Also, here I have listed few ideas which you can actually consider to achieve having a healthy relationship in your life.
A relationship where both the partners support each other and connect well, still feel free and independent. This is known as a healthy relationship. We have two major components of a healthy relationship, one is BOUNDARIES and the other is COMMUNICATION. It is obvious that both the partners equally decide what is healthy for their relationship and what is not. If one partner doesn’t feel something is right, then he/she should have the right to voice their concerns with their partner.
In this article, we will talk about what is a healthy relationship and what are the qualities of a healthy relationship.
Is your relationship healthy?
A healthy relationship doesn’t only make you feel good, but even enhances your life. We all know that every relationship takes time, care and commitment of two people to keep it healthy and live. If you will try to give more of your time, you will definitely go to get more from it. I have already discussed above the qualities of a healthy relationship, which includes equality, maintaining individuality, trust, shared interests, respect and open communication.
Do you know that a healthy relationship can be your best supporter in life? Yes, having a healthy relationship gives a person a meaning and a purpose of life. But, on another hand, if your relationship is not working, then it can be one of the major drains of your life which can be unhealthy for you.
Now, don’t ask me another question here, ‘what is an unhealthy relationship?’ because I will be talking about it in one of my upcoming articles.
How COMMUNICATION helps in having a healthy relationship?
Communication helps in having a healthy relationship between you and your partners as it allows in having a deep understanding between each other. It also helps in connecting with each other well. In a healthy relationship, if you have a good communication, then both the partners:
- Supports and treats each other with respect
- Speak openly about their feelings and thoughts
- Feel supported and expressive about their feelings
- Listen and Compromise
- Criticize in a positive way and help them improve
- Celebrate their success and accomplishments
- Don’t feel envious of their success
How BOUNDARIES help in having a healthy relationship?
Boundaries help people in having a healthy relationship because every person needs their own space and they have the right to express their feelings to their partner. When it is about the personal space, time, sex life, friends and family, a person should express their feelings that they are comfortable with it or not. In a healthy relationship, the boundaries help both the partners:
- Allowing each other with their personal time and space to spend with family and friends
- Avoid keeping checks on their partner and trust each other
- Do not pressurize for the things in which they are not comfortable
- No accusations about being unfaithful or disloyal
Qualities of Healthy Relationships
Every person is different from each other and thus, there is no such ONE way to have a healthy relationship. But, there are certain qualities of a healthy relationship which are most important.
- Allowing each other with freedom and to be themselves
- Comprehending the differences of each other
- Respecting individuality and listening to each other views
- Expressing and understanding each other’s desires, feelings and needs
- Being honest, calm, understanding and loyal
- Trusting each other and resolving all the conflicts mutually, rationally and peacefully
- Engaging with each other which helps in eliminating the physical or emotional abuse, manipulation and controlling over each other
Do you know that life is all about the relationship decisions? Yes. It is because your decisions are the most powerful future predictors. It is not just about the involvement of two or more people together, but a relationship is about communication with people. While making your relationship choices, you have to be really careful because those choices actually determine the path of your life.
Most of the people develop or choose their relationships based on EMOTIONS. And if you really want to have a healthy relationship with a person, then you really need to keep a check over your emotions. Your emotional decisions can take you into the sufferings of long-term consequences of a relationship. Also, a healthy relationship involves two people who recognize their own significance and individuality.
But what is a healthy relationship?
If people are healthy, then they know that they are complete and whole because it is must know your limitations and abilities about a relationship before starting the one. There are numerous people whose poor role models and life experiences affects their relationship abilities and thus they fail in having a healthy relationship.
There are people who despite their age couldn’t be able to handle relationships maturely at deeper levels, while there are some people who are not prepared to build one. Before starting a new relationship, it is really good to look at your past relationships and do your own self-assessment. You will be directed into the right direction if you will get to know about your limitations and relational abilities as well as of your partner.
If you are simply not ready to be in a healthy relationship, then it is my advice to you all to skip the idea. Because if you are not ready, then at some point in your life, you might land up asking yourself a question, ‘What I am doing in this relationship?’ It is really easy to point out faults in other people, but we never see faults in our self. I simply just want to put up my own quote here:
“Don’t always see flaws in other people. No person is without flaws and if you think you are flawless, then it’s your biggest flaw.”
Numerous relationships fail because people are unable to handle those responsibilities and demands which every thriving and healthy relationship needs. This significantly means that you really need to be capable of making good decisions. These decisions helps you in leading a healthy relationship and free from all the unnecessary problems.
Lastly, I just want to say that maintain your relationships in a healthy way. Love, Communication, Mutual Respect, Honesty, Forgiveness, Trust, Patience, Commitment, and Faithfulness can help you. I hope that you all have clearly understood what is a healthy relationship and how you can maintain it.
Ask yourself a question, ‘Am I in a Healthy Relationship?‘
I will answer this in my next article. So, stay tuned with me at WordsMeltPriya.